Dating and rejection

21 Mar

If you don't present these qualities to your dates, you're going to run into a lot of people who are unwilling to commit to you.

Withholding vulnerability is usually in response to past betrayal or abandonment, or growing up in an abusive, emotionally inconsistent, or unsupportive home.

Dealing With the Immediate Aftermath Dealing With the Rejection Long-Term Handling Rejecting a Proposal Community Q&A Any kind of rejection, no matter if it's in love, your career, friends, a book proposal or anything else, is not something that should affect how happy you are.

Rejection doesn't feel great and sometimes it feels unfathomable but it shouldn't be something you permit to take away happiness from your life.

When someone you care about ends a relationship, it can evoke feelings that range from disbelief to despair and everything in between. “I thought I had a lot to offer—but maybe not.” When this happens—and we say “when” because it happens to nearly everyone—it’s easy to interpret the event as a painful rejection of the most personal kind.

Too often we let our sensitive, divorce-worn hearts take centre stage, when what we really need to do is assess it from a rational standpoint.

He’s a maniacally athletic scientist — an intelligent, handsome, witty, maniacally athletic scientist — and our lifestyles clearly would never match up.

That night, I had a vivid dream — the quality of dream I always get when my life is in significant transition (I’ve written about the weird grip of my dreams before).

I had lived alone there, but when I moved to the communal fortress I had left a lot of things behind: clothes, books, even food.

In the dream, I had gone back to my old home because somehow I knew that an endless winter storm was coming, and the fortress needed whatever provisions and entertainments I could find.